365 Day Challenge of Brahmacharya - Day 6

Welcome to the second day of the 365 - day challenge of Brahmacharya. If you did not read "365 days challenge of celibacy - first day and second day and third day and fourth day and fifth day", then read it first.

In sixth day, we will learn psychology and find important following answers of this problem 

Question 1.  Why does it happen that when a man gets involved in Sex and then tries to leave it, then the mind starts saying from within, let's have some fun, it doesn't matter, no one is watching.

Answer : A person gets trapped in lust (sexual thoughts, porn, masturbation, or wrong relationships) and then tries to quit, the mind often says “Just enjoy a little, it doesn’t matter, no one is watching.” – The reasons and solutions for this need to be understood differently.

Why does this happen?

1. Addiction of Pleasure Hormone (Dopamine Addiction)

• Every sexual activity gives the brain a sharp dopamine hit.

• When you try to stop, the brain goes into “withdrawal” and creates craving.

It means:

• Withdrawal = The uncomfortable state your brain and body feel when you suddenly stop doing something that used to give you strong pleasure (like porn, masturbation, alcohol, smoking, junk food, etc.).

• Your brain was used to getting dopamine (the pleasure chemical) in large doses.

• When you quit, the brain misses that dopamine → this creates cravings (strong urges) so that you go back to the old habit.

👉 Example:
If someone drinks tea every morning, and one day they stop, they may get headache, irritation, or sleepiness. That is withdrawal.
Similarly, when someone stops porn or masturbation, the brain says “Just do it once, I need it” – that urge is craving caused by withdrawal.

We will give solution after completing all reasons 

2. Deception of the Mind

• The mind always looks for the easy way.

• “Do it a little, it won’t make any difference” – this is the trick of the mind.

• But the truth is that every time “a little” ends up becoming a big defeat.

3. Illusion of Secrecy

• Sexual craving often comes in loneliness.

• At that time, the mind says, “No one is watching.”

• But in reality, your body, your soul, and God are watching.

4. Memory of Past Experiences

• The neurons of the brain remember past pleasures.

• Whenever a sexual trigger appears, it reminds you of that old pleasure.

What to Do? (Solutions)

1. Answer the Mind

When the mind says “Just enjoy a little”, immediately reply:
👉 “A little pleasure is the cause of my great loss.”

2. Practice Alternatives

• As soon as the craving comes, wash your face with cold water, do push-ups, or take deep breaths or writing about the benefits of brahmacharya or reading 100 benefits of brahmacharya.

• Once the mind shifts focus, the craving disappears within 5–10 minutes.

3. Clear Resolution

• Write down:

  • “My life is not for lust, but for strength, peace, and success.”

• Read it every morning and night.

4. Spiritual Practice

• Meditation, reading the Gita, or chanting stabilizes the mind.

• You will start seeing brahmacharya as a source of power, not as a burden.

Remember

• The excuses of the mind will never end.

• But with every victory, your self-power increases, and gradually you will no longer be a slave of lust, but its master. 

🚫 Affirmations to Defeat Sex Craving

• “A little pleasure is the cause of my great loss.”

• “I am the master of my mind, not a slave of lust.”

• “Lust is temporary pleasure, but brahmacharya is infinite power.”

• “My body is pure, I will not waste it.”

• “No one is watching – that is a lie, I and God are both watching.”

• “My future, my energy, and my success are far more valuable.”

• “Lust steals my strength, self-control increases my strength.”

• “I will win today, and every victory will make me stronger.”

• “My desires are not greater than me.”

• “Through brahmacharya, I am living a radiant, successful, and peaceful life.”

👉 Method:

• Read them for 3–5 minutes every morning and night.

• Whenever a craving comes, repeat one of these affirmations again and again.

• Gradually, your brain’s wiring will change and the craving will weaken.

Question 2. Is dopamine force to back for sex addiction?

Yes, you understood it correctly 👍

Let me make it clearer:

• Dopamine itself is not “bad.” It is a natural brain chemical that gives you motivation, pleasure, and reward.

• But when someone watches porn, masturbates frequently, or engages in compulsive sex-related activities, the brain gets unnaturally high dopamine spikes.

• The brain gets used to this high level, so normal activities (study, work, relationships, exercise, prayer) start feeling boring.

• When you try to quit, your brain says:
  👉 “I need that high again!”
  👉 This is what creates cravings and pulls you back toward sex addiction.

So yes — dopamine pathways force you back into the habit until you retrain your brain with:

• Healthy dopamine sources (exercise, learning, music, meditation).

• Patience (because it takes time for the brain to reset).

💡 Scientists call this dopamine withdrawal and craving cycle.

Question 3. Why doesn’t the brain see that sex addiction is wrong and has no benefit?

1. Brain Works on Pleasure, Not Morality

• The brain is like a reward machine.

• Its job is not to ask “Is this right or wrong?” but to ask “Does this give me quick pleasure or not?”

• That’s why junk food, drugs, porn, or gambling all feel attractive even if we know they harm us.

2. Dopamine Hijacks Logic

• Addiction gives a strong dopamine rush.

• When dopamine spikes, the prefrontal cortex (the logical, decision-making part of the brain) becomes weak.

• At that moment, logic like “this is wrong, it has no benefit” gets suppressed, and only craving remains active.

3. Short-term vs. Long-term Conflict

• The brain evolved to seek short-term survival rewards (food, sex, comfort).

• But modern life demands long-term vision (health, career, spirituality).

• Addiction traps you in the short-term loop – the brain keeps chasing the “instant reward,” ignoring the long-term damage.

4. Memory Imprints (Neural Pathways)

• Every past pleasure leaves a memory track in the brain.

• When a trigger appears (image, thought, loneliness), the brain recalls that memory and says “Do it again.”

• It doesn’t care whether the outcome was guilt, weakness, or shame last time.

5. Illusion of Control

• The addicted brain whispers:
  👉 “Just once won’t harm you.”
  👉 “Next time I’ll control it.”

• This illusion keeps you stuck in the cycle.

Solution:

• Train the brain with new rewards (exercise, meditation, creativity).

• Strengthen the prefrontal cortex with habits like journaling, fasting, self-discipline.

• Reprogram through affirmations → so the brain starts linking pain with lust and pleasure with brahmacharya/self-control.

Question 4. Why did God make this pleasure machine (dopamine system) in my brain, if it traps me in lust or addiction?

1. God made it for survival, not addiction

• The dopamine system was designed by God to help humans survive.

• Food → pleasure motivates us to eat, otherwise we’d die.

• Sex → pleasure motivates us to reproduce, otherwise humanity would disappear.

• So in its natural form, dopamine is a gift of life, not a curse.

2. Problem comes from misuse

• God gave us free will and intelligence to use this system wisely.

• In ancient times, people experienced this pleasure only in natural limits (marriage, family, survival).

• But in today’s world, artificial stimulants (porn, junk food, drugs, alcohol, endless entertainment) hack this natural system and push it into overdrive.

• Addiction is not God’s design—it’s human misuse of God’s design.

3. God gave two powers in the brain

• Limbic brain (pleasure system) → wants quick reward.

• Prefrontal cortex (wisdom system) → can control, plan, and say “No.”

• God’s intention was balance:
  👉 Pleasure motivates action.
  👉 Wisdom keeps it in control.

• When wisdom dominates, pleasure becomes servant.

• When wisdom is weak, pleasure becomes master → addiction.

4. Spiritual Meaning

• Pleasure is like a test from God.

• It asks: “Will you live like an animal, always chasing short pleasures? Or will you rise like a human, mastering your mind and using energy for higher goals?”

• Those who master it gain brahmacharya shakti, peace, focus, success, spiritual growth.

In short:

God made the pleasure machine as a gift for survival and motivation.

Addiction is not God’s plan – it is when humans misuse that gift without self-control.

Question 5. Why does wisdom not open when the brain’s pleasure force is active?

When dopamine-driven urges are triggered, your prefrontal cortex (the seat of wisdom, logic, and long-term vision) is suppressed. The brain is wired so that survival/pleasure circuits override higher reasoning in moments of strong temptation. That’s why people know something is harmful, but still repeat it.

It’s like if you’re starving — your brain won’t let you calmly think about the future; it will scream “eat now!”. The same wiring gets hijacked in sex/porn addiction.

Question 6. Why doesn’t God protect at that exact moment?

Think of how God/nature works:

• God has already given warning systems — guilt, shame, conscience, physical weakness after excess.

• God has given fear circuits for survival — like when you look down from a 101st floor, your body automatically shakes.

• But for pleasure-related temptations, if God forced fear in the same way, free will would vanish.

👉 The difference:

• Falling from a building = immediate, visible death.

• Sex addiction = slow, hidden damage. That’s why no natural fear like “heights” is built-in. Instead, humans are supposed to use wisdom, discipline, and spiritual practices to rise above it.

Question 7. Why would God allow this struggle at all?

Because the struggle itself creates growth, willpower, and spiritual strength. If God blocked every wrong path automatically, humans would never learn, never grow.

• You don’t become strong because the gym is easy — you become strong because the weights resist you.

• Similarly, the temptation system is the “weight” for your mind and soul. Overcoming it is how you evolve.

So, God does help — by giving:

• Conscience (inner voice) → whispers “this is not right.”

• Suffering after excess → body/mind become weak, reminding you of the cost.

• Spiritual teachings → scriptures, saints, and wisdom you are reading right now.

• Choice → the dignity to resist and win.

If God directly installed fear in the brain like “don’t do this ever,” humans would be like robots, not free beings.

Question 8. If God gave us this pleasure system in our brain, why doesn’t He also make our wisdom automatically activate at the moment of temptation? Why doesn’t God protect us from the ‘living death’ of lust addiction the way He protects us from immediate physical dangers, by creating a natural fear to stop us?

God (or nature) immediately protects us from sudden physical death (falling, drowning, fire, etc.) by wiring in automatic fear responses. But when it comes to lust and addiction, it becomes a kind of “living death”:

• The body survives, but…

  • Power is drained.

  • Face becomes pale/yellow, eyes lose shine.

  • Intelligence dulls, memory weakens.

  • Courage and confidence vanish.

This is not protected against by automatic fear, because it is meant to be a spiritual test. Addiction teaches humans the cost of wrong pleasure and forces them to awaken higher wisdom.

Think of it this way:

• Sudden death ends your chance to grow → so God prevents it strongly.

• Living death (lust addiction) gives you a chance to learn, struggle, and rise higher.

That is why saints, yogis, and sages are so highly respected — they mastered this inner battlefield.

👉 In fact, in scriptures it is said:

“Victory over lust is greater than victory over thousands in battle.”

Because only here, wisdom must fight against your own brain’s strongest drive.

Question 9 On one hand, God teaches us self-control and brahmacharya, but on the other hand, God made people/creatures beautiful, which naturally attracts lust. This beauty tempts us to cross limits. Why did God create beauty that stimulates lust instead of making it ‘ugly’ so we would be safe from temptation?

1. Beauty is not evil, it is a gift

• God created beauty in humans, animals, and nature as a source of joy, inspiration, and harmony.

• Beauty awakens admiration, love, and positive emotions, which are essential for relationships, art, and connection.

• The problem arises only when lust misuses beauty, not because beauty itself is wrong.

2. Temptation is a test, not a punishment

• God did not make beauty “ugly” because life’s purpose is learning and growth, not automatic safety.

• Temptation tests self-control, discipline, and wisdom.

• By resisting desire, humans develop inner strength, brahmacharya power, and spiritual maturity.

3. Contrast teaches value

• If everyone were “ugly” or nothing attracted desire, the mind would have no choice to exercise control.

• Beauty creates opportunity for struggle, and struggle leads to mastery.

• In spiritual terms:

  “Victory over temptation is greater than victory over any external obstacle.”

4. Self-control is a conscious choice

• God gives pleasure and beauty as stimuli, but also gives intelligence, conscience, and spiritual guidance.

• Humans must choose wisely — this is how free will and moral responsibility are exercised.

• Without this choice, humans would be like robots, not beings capable of growth, wisdom, and liberation.

5. Practical teaching from this

• Admire beauty without attachment.

• Recognize that lust is not the beauty’s fault, it is the mind that misuses it.

• Use discipline, meditation, and spiritual affirmations to transform temptation into self-mastery.

Conclusion:

God made beauty to enhance life and experience, not to trap humans.
The possibility of lust is a challenge, not a flaw — it gives humans the chance to grow stronger, wiser, and spiritually elevated.

Question 10. Sometimes, beauty tempts us so strongly that it feels more powerful than our control. Isn’t it unfair or partiality on God’s part?

1. God is not partial, but the challenge varies

• Life is not meant to be uniform. Different people face different challenges — some struggle with lust, some with anger, some with attachment, etc.

• It may feel unfair when temptation seems stronger than your control, but it is actually the mind’s current weakness being tested, not God’s partiality.

2. Strength is built through difficulty

• The more powerful the temptation, the greater the opportunity for growth if you resist it.

• Like in weightlifting: heavier weights are harder to lift, but lifting them builds stronger muscles.

• Similarly, stronger temptations train your willpower, self-control, and spiritual strength.

3. Free will is always preserved

• God does not force you to act; the choice is always yours.

• Temptation is like a test of consciousness — whether you let the mind master you, or you master the mind.

4. Perception of “unfair” comes from the ego

• The ego says: “Why me? Why is this so strong?”

• But spiritually, God sees your potential. The temptation is proportionate to your capacity to grow, even if it feels overwhelming at the moment.

5. Practical approach

• Accept that strong temptations will arise — this is normal.

• Use discipline, meditation, affirmations, and energy channeling to strengthen the mind.

• Gradually, even very strong beauty or sexual triggers will lose their power over you.

Summary:

• God is not partial; temptation is not unfair.

• Strong temptations are opportunities for greater inner strength and mastery.

• The apparent “force beyond control” is temporary and can be overcome with practice, wisdom, and discipline.